I’ve noticed that when you work really hard and go after something you want, when you finally get it, people will tell you that you’re lucky. What is luck, though, except hard work?
I’m lucky to live at the beach, but that luck was made possible by showing up at work every day in Atlanta for 14 years, giving 110%, never calling in sick, taking on more and more responsibility, and making myself indispensable to my workplace to the point that they now allow me to work virtually from home. Same with my husband. He busted his hump for 19 years with the same company and now works exclusively from home. So is it luck? Or was it work?
Same situation with owning a horse. I can’t tell you how many times someone has said to me, “You’re so lucky to have a horse!” But I work HOURS every week, rain or shine, freezing or blazing hot, to take care of that horse, I go to the barn every single day, twice a day, and I gave up virtually every other hobby or interest to pursue horses. I wear Goodwill and hand-me-downs, buy generic brand groceries, and do not own a single designer handbag or pair of shoes, unlike most women my age. My money goes to the horse. That’s not luck. That’s a choice.
I guess I was lucky to be born in America and have the chance to get a good job, to be healthy enough to work and have hobbies, and to not have a child or loved one with an illness that requires round the clock care. There is a certain amount of luck, some call it privilege, that allows me to be where I am today (which, by the way, is solidly middle class, not wealthy). I may not have control over how far up the ladder of success I was born, but I do control whether I move up or down, and I do that with hard work.
When I see someone get something I want or be successful in an area I’d like to have success in, my first response is to think, “They’re so lucky!” Then I remind myself that there’s a lot of hard work that went on behind the scenes. One post on social media that shows a winning moment doesn’t show the hours of blood, sweat and tears that went into the win. I don’t have control over everything, but I can control how hard I go after what I want.